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Kellogg’s Corn Flakes and Graham Crackers were originally marketed as a cure for carnal strivings and masturbation.

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Nobody’s Ready for Marriage – Marriage Makes You Ready for Marriage.

Our self-made crises are custom-tailored, painstakingly crafted, and always fit perfectly.

Autonomy and independence involve taking care of yourself – not doing things that diminish you.

When we stand up and confront ourselves in ways our parents have not, a desire for justice makes it harder to forgive them in some ways. However, the increased differentiation this endeavor provides allows one to better self-soothe, to validate one’s own experience, thereby unhooking the need for confession from one’s parent. At this point, forgiveness becomes an act of self-caring and a deliberate decision to get on with one’s life.

The truth is liberating – but only when you have the courage to live it.

It is the power patriarchal societies try to diminish by infantalizing women by calling them doll, chick, babe, and girl regardless of their age.

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Did I pick the right person? This question inverts the starting and ending points. We do not pick our perfect match because we ourselves are not perfect. The universe hands us a flawless diamond—in the rough. Only if we are willing to polish off every part of ourselves that cannot join do we end up with a soul mate.

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People don’t want to calm down because then they see things they sort of knew but didn’t want to face.

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Borrowed functioning artificially inflates (or deflates) your functioning. Your “pseudo self” can be pumped up through emotional fusion, which makes poorly differentiated people doggedly hang onto each other. Two people in different relationships can appear to function at the same level although they have achieved different levels of differentiation. The difference is that the better differentiated one will more consistently function well even when the partner isn’t being supportive or encouraging. Before they came to see me, Bill claimed that there was “nothing wrong” with him. As long as he had Joan’s “support” and controlled how intimate they were, he functioned well on a superficial level. Joan, however, went through difficult self-doubts and depression. And when she was in her deepest depths, Bill was kinder, more considerate, and empathic. Somehow Bill seemed the more stable of the two. But things changed when Joan emerged from her unhappiness. As she began to function more autonomously, Bill’s functioning seemingly diminished. As she developed more self-respect, he became more insecure. As she needed his validation less, he feared losing her more. Still, Bill wasn’t about to support or stroke Joan in ways that didn’t enhance his own status or that might require him to confront himself.

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Nobody’s Ready for Marriage—Marriage Makes You Ready for Marriage

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The philosophy of one century is the common sense of the next.

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I have learned something about quality research, and also that the emotional prices involved in making “expedient” and “pragmatic” concessions often far exceed the effort needed to stand behind my own convictions.

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We approach romance like a privileged form of suffering that makes us feel more alive—living dangerously, magnificently, and tragically.

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The truth is liberating—but only when you have the courage to live it.

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Weak people are destructive; powerful people are constructive. Powerful people create, facilitate, and make things happen.

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hatred and aggression—and carnivorous sexual intent—aren’t our “dark” side. Our dark side is the side that denies its own existence.

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Autonomy and independence involve taking care of yourself—not doing things that diminish you.

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For most of Western civilization low sexual desire has been considered a goal rather than a problem.

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If you can’t regulate your own emotional temperature, you’ll regulate everyone around you to keep yourself comfortable.

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Wanting creates the space in which our highest aspirations come into being.

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A solid sense of self develops from confronting yourself, challenging yourself to do what’s right, and earning your own self-respect.

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We tell ourselves that intimacy (and marriage) takes two people who are willing to work at it-but, unfortunately, we rarely have the slightest inkling of our "job" assignments in this project.

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Our mistakes and regrets are not barriers to becoming who we can be; they are a necessary ingredient.

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You don't think your way to a new way of living. You live your way to a new way of thinking.

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